“When mutual recognition is not restored, when shared reality does not survive destruction, then complementary structures and ‘relating’ to the inner object predominate. Because this occurs commonly enough, the intrapsychic, subject-object concept of the mind actually conforms to the dominant mode of internal experience…The loved one is continually being destroyed, but its survival means that we can eat our reality and have it too” (Jessica Benjamin, Like Subjects, Love Objects, 43-45).